I have been with my husband now for 17 years.
Every once in a while I get asked how do we manage to keep it together for so many years?
I think for the most part, 2 people have individual needs and if the other person is willing to meet those needs, then you can have a happy outcome.
It all starts in the beginning with listening.
Both parties should listen to each other when they are getting to know each other and figure out what their needs and goals are.
If you pay attention and listen, you will understand right away whether you can meet the other’s expectations.
Both have to be willing to meet the needs of the other person.
It is a 2 way street.
I have come across some selfish expats and it usually does not end well for them.
There is a very high divorce rate with expats and Thai’s.
Thai women are not slaves and those that think they are in a relationship often find out the hard way.
A marriage in Thailand is the same as anywhere else in the world.
If you divorced in your own country, you should have experience what can happen.
I am luck my husband has always wanted to see me happy and is more than willing to go along with everything I can dream up. He is one of those that is happy making me happy in whatever it is, whether business, family, or even what to eat.
I am fortunate he is super go-easy and happy to just be with me.
We are lucky to have no worries or financial issues. My husband is the least worried about money for himself and rather care for others.
I do my part to watch out and take care of him, knowing this is not his culture or language. He is the reason I have the life that I do now and I never forget his generosity is why I have such a super easy life.
As my husband gets older, he has gone out of his way to place things in motion to ensure I will be able to maintain after he is gone. He said that he would suffer knowing if I ever had to suffer.
That is the sign of a good man. Looking out for his family, understanding the realism of the eventual future.
We go everywhere together, more like 2 buddies than husband and wife.
But down deep, we both know the happiness of the other is what is more important.
My husband loves being with me, helping out and making sure I know he is always there for me.
I consider my selfish extremely lucky he picked me and I don’t take that for granted.
I enjoy every day, month and year we have together, knowing he won’t be here forever.